Brett some people don't want to announce to others they have cancer. It's part of their personal journey with cancer. I know several people on this site who have cancer but choose not to tell anyone. Cancer is everywhere and it's prevalent. There seems to be no end in site with this horrible disease but the awareness is out there. My point is.....there are some people who do hide their illnesses for whatever reason they do.
We must accept their decision and hope for the best. I have lost a good friend on this site to cancer and had no idea they had it.
It's just who they choose to tell. I hear your pain and I am sorry for your loss.